Letting Go – It’s time to Forgive

Betrayal, aggression, and just plain insensitivity: People can hurt us in a million ways, and forgiveness isn’t always easy. Whether you’ve been cut off in traffic, slighted by your mother-in-law, betrayed by a spouse, or badmouthed by a co-worker, most of us are faced with a variety of situations that we can choose to ruminate over or forgive. But forgiveness, like so many things in life, is easier said than done.forgiveness1

Forgiveness is a journey toward freedom from our past. It can be transformational, complex, is not to be taken lightly and cannot be commanded. If you are patient and open to the unfolding of forgiveness, your desire to forgive will be fulfilled.

There may be plateaus along the way where many of us are lulled into thinking the journey is complete, but you will know you have reached your destination when only love and gratitude remain in your heart for the person you have forgiven. When a hurtful past relationship has been transformed into an opportunity for personal growth and healing for which you are grateful—with or without an apology—then you know you are free.

Generally, forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge. The act that hurt or offended you might always remain a part of your life, but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help you focus on other, positive parts of your life. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you deny the other person’s responsibility for hurting you, and it doesn’t minimize or justify the wrong. You can forgive the person without excusing the act. Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps you go on with life.

When you’re hurt by someone you love and trust, you might become angry, sad or confused. If you dwell on hurtful events or situations, grudges filled with resentment, vengeance and hostility can take root. If you allow negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice.

If you’re unforgiving, you might pay the price repeatedly by bringing anger and bitterness into every relationship and new experience. Your life might become so wrapped up in the wrong that you can’t enjoy the present. You might become depressed or anxious. You might feel that your life lacks meaning or purpose, or that you’re at odds with your spiritual beliefs. You might lose valuable and enriching connectedness with others.

Forgiveness is a commitment to a process of change. To begin, you might:

  • Consider the value of forgiveness and its importance in your life at a given time
  • Reflect on the facts of the situation, how you’ve reacted, and how this combination has affected your life, health and well-being
  • When you’re ready, actively choose to forgive the person who’s offended you
  • Move away from your role as victim and release the control and power the offending person and situation have had in your life

As you let go of grudges, you’ll no longer define your life by how you’ve been hurt. You might even find compassion and understanding.Karma


Falling in Love Again

You deserve to be with someone who compliments you, who treats you like royalty and lifts you up with great gentleness when you are down. You could call this other person your best friend, dream lover or perhaps your Enlightened Loving Soul Mate. What qualifies someone to resonate with you at this caliber is the profound intimate spiritual connection you have with them. There is a natural synchronicity between you, and you have the feeling that the days are truly “timeless” together.

Upon your first meeting you may feel as if you have known each other for many years or lifetimes, and you probably have. You may also feel like you can share anything you are experiencing in your life without editing your words or holding back in any way. There is this simple presence together, and a closeness that allows you to relax with this person and fully be yourself.

“A soul mate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves steps out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who were pretending to be.” ~ Richard Bach

You may not believe this, yet there is at least one person on the planet right now that totally fits this description of being your soul mate. The good news is that you don’t have to struggle, strive and search on internet dating sites for years to locate this person. You have a natural manifesting power inside you that will attract this divine enlightened connection quicker than you think! When you are living with love, joy and appreciation in your heart and you’ve healed all your past relationship wounding, you become a manifesting magnet for the mate of your dreams! There are many magical things that can miraculously manifest when you open your mind and heart to love. When you are truly surrendered to love, to the source of love within you 24 hours a day, this divine soul connection will spontaneously appear in the most unsuspecting way.

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. ~ Elizabeth Gilbert

So are you ready to meet your soul mate this week? If not, what are you afraid of? What is really stopping you from being open to this possibility? Often the negative unhealed experiences from the past will block your heart from opening again to trust in love. This fear can create a protective wall around your heart that may blind you from seeing if your soul mate was standing right in front of you.

If your heart is still holding onto previous wounds and negative memories from past relationships, you might feel that it’s TOO dangerous to trust in love and think it’s safer to hide behind this wall. The interesting thing is that the walls that are formed around the heart will numb the feelings of pain AND any sensation of being loved.

These inner walls block both the positive and negative feelings, leaving you completely unable to have a personal intimate relationship. When this occurs there is only one way out. The key is to let down your guard, be real with yourself and trust the healing process of loving you just as you are.

“”Our soul mates seldom appeal to our personality your ego. That’s why they are called soul mates rather than ego mates.” ~Carolyn Miller

Even though you are a sensitive being and may not think you have a steel blockade around your heart, you can always choose to practice letting in even more love. The melting and healing of the smallest self-sabotaging thoughts that arise can allow for buckets of deep joy to pour into your heart. One of the greatest keys to manifesting an enlightened loving being is radical honesty with yourself. Ask yourself, “How far along am I on my spiritual path?”. One simple gauge for this is noticing the level of compassion you have for yourself, your beloved, and everyone else in the world. If you have tremendous love, respect and gentleness with yourself, you are making it 1000 times easier for others to find love for you. A heart overflowing with constant compassion for yourself and others becomes a giant magnet for attracting that enlightened divine lover from your outer world. The greatest blessing of all, is when this inner gentleness becomes a addictive habit, and you become the healing master of your life.

“Soul mates are people who bring out the best in you. They are not perfect but are always perfect for you.” ~ Author Unknown